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  • Dealing With Parent's Separation

    Posted by Eisha-Tir-Raazia on November 4, 2024 at 5:58 pm

    Im a 17 year old girl who lives with her mother, my mom is a working single mother who tends to love my younger brother more than me since he was born. My father and mother got separated last year and he was not really a good father he was abusive and irresponsible. He is going to marry another woman (he has not divorced my mother yet and my brother lives with my father) he doesn’t take care of me nor takes care of my expenses is it my mother’s duty to fulfil those or do i have to ask my father for it because he insults me every single time i ask him. And is it my responsibility to take care of my mother as she has no one except me and what can i do if i marry someone how will i take care of my mother ( she on the other hand is not too good with me ) i feel both my parents use me as a revenge from one another im mentally disturbed and unable to pray because i have no belief left cuz my father prayed 5 times a day but yet he was not a good human and my heart is not willing to pray as it reminds me of my father’s doings im stuck between my mother and my father nor can i focus on my life because whenever i chose to do it, i feel guilt that i will leave my mother and become a bad daughter

    Maliha replied 8 hours, 43 minutes ago 3 Members · 4 Replies
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  • Dealing With Parent's Separation

    Maliha updated 8 hours, 43 minutes ago 3 Members · 4 Replies
  • Dr. Irfan Shahzad

    Scholar November 5, 2024 at 12:45 am

    We believe in God and worship Him because He is our Creator and will hold us accountable for our actions. He placed us in this world to test us. If someone fails, it is by their own choice. Remember, your father is not God’s representative.

    Each person is responsible for doing good to the best of their ability. If you can find a job, you can support your mother, both now and even after you’re married. When the time of your marriage comes, then you can assess the options available to you.

  • Eisha-Tir-Raazia

    Member November 5, 2024 at 6:23 pm

    My mother is someone i would die for but at the same time her actions make me want to leave her so is it my responsibility to look after her emotions at the cost of my own peace? If my peace makes me leave her should i do that? Because I’ve left her once and went to my father and she said she’s sorry for her actions towards me but when i came back she’s still the same

    • Maliha

      Member November 6, 2024 at 11:45 am

      Divorce/ Separation is hard, it hurts every second one thousand times. Somewhere deep in her heart your mother has taken this decision to give you a better life. separation after a long marriage means she tried her best but now circumstances were beyond her control. Be kind to her, hug her, take care of her , she must have been broken immensely inside. You are big enough to take responsibility of holding her in this hard time and that will help you also.

  • Dr. Irfan Shahzad

    Scholar November 5, 2024 at 11:32 pm

    God has instructed us to be good to our parents, especially when they grow old. Now it is our discretion to find a way to be good to them. It is not necessary to live with them or sacrifice your rights or pleasure to prove you are good to them. Try to take care of them according to your capacity.

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