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How Much A Husband Can Actually Dictate/? And Who Decide What Is Reasonable
Assalamu alaikum.
I am asking this question/confusion on the basis of what husband must and must not. Not based on should.
I got a lot of fatwas in almost every sites where it says wife has to obey husband. (obviouslu in halal matters)
My question is, how broad is the the spectrum of this obidience. Some say in every halal asks asked bybthe husband some say that only marital relation.
1.If it is spread to only marital relation then that is understandnle. But if it really means obedience in every halal things asked by husabnd then how a marriage is different than prison.
2.And again is he even obliged to consult with the wife about any decision that he is taking about the family?I know he has the last say.But isn’t he even required by sharia to discuss it to wife? (Again I am not asking what a husband should rather what a husband must).
3.What if he is seeing that the wife is much knowledable about a particular thing than him and yet not even discussing with her. In that case also the wife has to obey him? Like he dicided to get a job in abroad without even asking the wife moreiver knowing that wife was never willing to move to abroad.
4. So he can take all these important decisions all alone and is nit even required to consult with his wife and the wife has to obey him? and if she doesn’t she will be sinful?
5. He can technically prevent her from every possible halal plans of the life and she is obliged to obey him.And otherwise she will be sinful?
6. So if in marriage for the wife there is such an emense chances to be a sinful why should she marry?
7. And how much he can dictate her going outside provided that she is with good people, and safe environment. Can he prevent these harmless things also?
Again I am not asking what a husband should do rather what he must do. Because we all know for wife it is a must to obey him. So I really wanted to know how large does the spectrum spread.
I am not arguing but really sharing my concerns to understand why should a woman even feel encouraged to get married? What is the point of entering in such a relation then where there is a chance of become a “free prisoner”.
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How Much A Husband Can Actually Dictate/? And Who Decide What Is Reasonable
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Being head of the family doesn’t mean a dilute authority. It is a responsibility of man to provide and protect his family. This status of his generator some responses from his households, thavis respect and obedience in the administration of the house.
A good family doesn’t run by rules but with compassion, love and care. Read the seerah of the prophet and the blessed companions to find the examples of a good family life.
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Assalamu alaikum @Irfan76 bhai.
I was looking for how much he can, and what he must. Not should. Because I heard she is to oblige her husband otherotherwise she will be sinning. So on the other side what is the “must” for a husband?
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