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Is A Wife Obligated To Obey Her Husband On Job/Work Related Decisions?
Is a wife obligated to obey her husband when he says after marriage that she should not work ? Bcz its the right of women
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Is A Wife Obligated To Obey Her Husband On Job/Work Related Decisions?
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Please refer to the following video
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It didnt answer my question that whether the wife is obligated to not do outside work when his husband says no
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Husband has to justify his claim. If he is justified she should obey.
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But isnt it her right to work
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Rights and obligations are adjusted when there is a conflict. Such matters should be discussed before marriage. It is husband’s decision which is final. However man should exercise his authority with responsibility and justice with care, not to establish his dictatorship.
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How can a husband decision be final when allah gave women the right to job just like the right to men to marry 4 men arent obligated to take permission from their wives after marrying another then why women for jobs when allah gave her the right to work if a women is willing to work then the permission of husband shouldn’t be a problem cuz its clearly her right to work allah mad husband the QAWAM doesnt mean that the husband should order the wife around and dont offer her rights and ignore it just bcz he is to be obeyed !!!
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Disregard what religion suggests. Go streight to European lifestyle. Why not? Women should take lead. They should work and then take half the responsibility of paying all the bills and half the responsibility of doing the heavylifting work installing fence, cutting trees, mowing lawn, fixing vehicles, etc. Women should be required and drafted to go to war and involve in hand to hand combat. Women should have equal right and equal number of women should work as CEOs and in coal mining, plumbing, welding, refusal cleaning, etc.
Perhaps Women should one day take full responsibility for family’s Financials and husbands can sit at home do nothing. More power to women. Then men sitting at home should refuse to do house chores. Why not? Reverse the whole thing. Better for men.
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Your isnt related to my question and also ask men to take care of childrens get pregnant and tolerate that pain leave their mother house and live a new life tolerate the unwanted abuse get periods every month tolerate the taunts of in laws etc
Moreover my question wasnt even about men responsibility okey if u dont have the answer then dont ans plz and also you say that women sit home to do nothuing oh really nothing ??? There are also women working for their home having part times jobs to help financially theres much more
And you didnt answer my question and i didnt say that eurpeons are best or etc its a simple question if u yave no ans than plz dont ans instead of telling men and women responsibility
JazakAllah
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I think you have the religious answer and non religious answer but not the answer that aligns with your expectations.
1. Religious answer is simple. Allah say he created man to be more suited for earning money and spending money for family needs. Men are oblighted to earn and protect family. Thus they are designed a degree above women in family matters.
There is no obligation placed on women. Thus if husband agrees they can work or pursue career.
Husbands can marry marry another women without wife’s permission, but not secretly. But Allah has discouraged more than one marriage. Multiple marriages are not for fun but allowed for the benefit of women. If there are lot of women who can’t find husband or they are divorced or widowed. Islam had allowed multiple marriages to help women. And it is women who are standing up against their own benefit.
Now husband is allowed to marry another woman without wife’s permission but wife can demand and take divorce.
Similarly if a women. Goes to work without husbands agreement, the husband has the right to divorce that woman.
So if a woman want to work and build career there are so many options especially if you do not want to follow Allah’s recommendations and guidance. 1. Don’t get married 2. Discuss with your fiancé and align with him before getting married 3. If you are already married get a divorce and pursue a career 4. Pursue a career and take husbands position and take full responsibility of family’s finances and our husband can quit his job and take care of housing chores and raising kids. 5. Both of you can work and both of you do everything half and half from paying bills to raising kids to doing house chores to do physically demanding work…whatever both of you are happy about. You have all these options that are fair and just. But you can’t just work and keep your money as your money and husbands money is your money too and husband has to help do household chores and all physically demanding work too.
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Plus provide proof that women has to obey when the husband says no to the job i just said that when a man isnt obligated to take permission why a wome bcz both things are clearly the rights of each other if a women wants to do job whats a problem with that doing job doesnt make her eurpeon thinking nowhere i said eurpeon are the best i asked WHY ? ITS her right and rights are to offered even if he is his husband he has to answer
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Also women going through 6 months of discomfort and 3 months of extreme discomfort and one day of extreme pain is not men’s fault. Next will we say that women are short, women don’t have enough muscles, etc is men’s fault?
If women give birth then they are half responsible for the pain and discomfort they go through for child birth. If a husband goes to war and looses limbs or get beaten up in a fight while earning or protecting family, should he blame women and ask her to take as much pain?
Allah has designed this perfect religion if you learn and understand. It favors women more than men, but men don’t complain but women do.
If men don’t follow religion and abuse women and don’t give them their rights, then it is not religion’s problem. It is people’s problem.
In the World many many women are abused by men, but it is not man and woman issue but it is an issue of powerful and weak. In the world powerful men and powerful women abuse weak men or women regardless of gender, color, religion or ethnicity. Although a person following religion will never do that.
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You are looking for a proof that a women has to obey when husband doesn’t allow her to work. No where in Islam does it state that you have to obey. It is recommended that this is better for you that husband lead the family organization if he is fulfilling his responsibility of earning money to the best of his abilities and spending money on family’s legitimate needs within his means.
If husband is leading the family justly and fairly and he doesn’t approve of his wife to work, the wife doesn’t have to obey. But then don’t expect marriage to continue. It is husband’s right to divorce a women who doesn’t follow husband’s lead.
The alternative is that you take the leadership position and then husband will have to take your permission to work. But, it is unlikely that such arrangements will be successful in the long run because of the nature of men and women.
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See the verse 4:34.
Such matters should be discussed to settle. When you depend upon someone you have to oblige him.
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