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Feeling Anger And Feeling Bad For Feeling Anger
I saw a 14-15-year-old hijabi girl with a non-Muslim boy, and their behavior/position didn’t seem appropriate. I felt a lot of anger and hate in my heart. What should I do? How do I handle this?
I feel bad for feeling angry. Everyone has the right to live their own life, and we are all creations of Allah. But still, I felt anger. How can I deal with this emotion?
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Feeling Anger And Feeling Bad For Feeling Anger
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Is the prerogative of God to judge the people. We are supposed to take care of ourselves and if someone asks us to guide, only then we can guide them. This is all we are supposed to do.
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I am confused. In your post here Discussion 99224
You mention about common muslim to advise or guide.
How can a common person advise, if they donot judge right from wrong?
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I have recently seen a video where Ustad Javed Ghamidi Sir was telling to stop being moral police and dont tell people what to do about their acts related
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It’s about “Gunah se nafrat karo, Gunehgaro se nahi” – “Hate the sin, not the sinner.”
We should judge and form decisions on what we think is right or wrong, we can’t live life without that. But we can’t judge individuals on whatever they are doing. I mean, for example, shirk is wrong, but we can’t judge if a person who’s worshipping an idol is mushrik or not. We don’t know his heart and his personal journey.
At the best, we should form positive and optimistic decisions about people. For an example, we know it is said that it is considered that drinking water while sitting is sunnah. Now, I heard from an aalim, that if you see a person drinking water while he is standing, think they are drinking water of zamzam, which is to be drank while standing. This is an example of how positive we can get, while judging others! Even if there are 99% chances of some sin, we’ll look at and magnify that 1% chances which assumes they are good.
Imho.
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thanks, i understood the point
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Should parents not even judge their own kids? I want to understand how much free will people have (as kids and teens) and how much authority parents should have over their children. For example, let’s say I’m a father, and my 13-14-year-old daughter starts doing things that are considered immoral. What am I supposed to do? Personally, I feel that her actions are her responsibility and she will be held accountable for them.
But in our culture, parents often react harshly—some might beat their daughters or force them into marriage. Let’s take this extreme case: if a 13-14-year-old girl is seen having one or multiple romantic relationships, how should a father think and act?
1) How should he discipline her? 2) How can he avoid feeling upset, especially when society is likely to shame and criticize the family? -
Parents have no right to control their adult children. They should train them well and if find fault with them, they should talk to them and advise them.
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What is adult in islam?
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There is no separate criteria of adulthood in islam. The one who is usually considered adult is adult. Puberty and sensibility are generally two merits are seen in one to be qualified as a responsible adult.
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