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  • Balancing Act: Daughters From 1st Marriage (living With Ex) Vs 2nd Wife

    Posted by faisal salim on July 9, 2025 at 9:57 am

    I have two daughters from my first marriage who lives with their mother…. For 7 out of 10 years we were incommunicado, and recently eldest daughter is meeting me in friendly terms. For all past years I wasn’t able to pay anything because of no contact. I am in 2nd marriage , and my wife is objecting to me paying any amount to my elder daughter. With different excuses like blaming daughter for supposedly talking against her, the wife is imposing on me to limit my interaction with daughter as according to her “Islam says so to restrict/ban those who create troubles”. Moreover, now she has increasedly asking for more money for supposed more expenses (which she fails to justify despite of me asking to explain where she spends the money given for house running. Though I have over done in giving wife a much sounder financial comfort but still she portrays herself as being not given enough. I am in a dilemma as I have to reestablish harmonious relationship with eldest daughter with occasional fatherly financial help in face of opposition in present marriage. What is the way for me to adopt, other than talking it out with wife. That has amply been done at the cost of ruining my re-connection with daughter

    Ahsan replied 2 hours, 48 minutes ago 3 Members · 3 Replies
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  • Balancing Act: Daughters From 1st Marriage (living With Ex) Vs 2nd Wife

    Ahsan updated 2 hours, 48 minutes ago 3 Members · 3 Replies
  • Umer

    Moderator July 9, 2025 at 10:44 pm

    Considering the nature of your issue, please register for a free online consultation session with Dr. Shahzad Saleem at the following link:

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  • faisal salim

    Member July 10, 2025 at 11:43 am

    Done…with refiner text…..Is there any mention of cutting of relationship with one own daughters, if their step mother creates a hype that daughter are talking against her. This has been stance of my wife, pressurizing me to stop talking to my estranged daughter, living with my ex who recently started contacting me, has some complaints about the divorce to their mother. But practically she has no discussion with me on any topic what to talk of present wife. I am in a fix, as I perceive it to be mere hyped up issue by wife. Moreover , in my opinion one cannot cutoff blood relatives to please a person. Talking with wife on the issue is non starter….so give authenticated Islamic recommendation

  • Ahsan

    Moderator July 10, 2025 at 9:37 pm

    Dr Shehzad is an expert in such matter..he will guide you better, give him all details furing your session.

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