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Unfair Life Leading To Unfair Test Among People
If one woman is born into a stable, loving family, is physically attractive, and later marries a kind and stable man, while another woman is born into a very difficult life—she is not considered attractive, comes from an unstable and unsupportive family, and is an orphan—then their lives are clearly unequal from the beginning. The second woman has suffered much more throughout her life, while the first woman’s life has been relatively comfortable. However, neither of them chose the circumstances they were born into; those circumstances were already decided by Allah. It is often said that a person who suffers more will be rewarded more. If that is the case, then the second woman will receive a greater reward simply because her life was harder. But how is it fair to the first woman, who did not choose to be born into easier circumstances and is now rewarded less for something that was never her decision? On the other hand, it is also said that people will be rewarded based on merit—how they lived their lives and how well they fulfilled their responsibilities. If both women lived morally good lives and performed equally well as individuals, then they would be rewarded equally. But if they are rewarded equally, then how is it fair to the second woman, who endured far more suffering yet received the same reward? So if reward is based on suffering, the first woman seems unfairly disadvantaged. If reward is based on merit alone, the second woman seems unfairly treated. Since neither chose their starting point in life, how is ultimate reward determined in a way that is truly just?
Please don’t respond with phrases like “Allah will decide” or “there will be justice.” I’m trying to understand the logic, not receive reassurance. My life has been relatively stable and comfortable. When I look around at my friends, many of them have had extremely difficult lives—especially those whose struggles started in childhood. When hardship is constant from such an early age, it’s unrealistic to expect that person to naturally develop healthy coping or emotional regulation tools. Many of them remain stuck, or eventually need therapy just to function. In that context, telling someone things like “don’t worry, life will get better” or “stay strong” feels empty and dismissive. It ignores the long-term psychological damage caused by years of instability and suffering. What I genuinely want to understand is this: how do people logically make sense of unequal lives where some are given stability and safety, while others are given prolonged hardship that limits their ability to grow in the same way? How do we think about responsibility, growth, and outcomes when the starting conditions are so unequal? -
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Unfair Life Leading To Unfair Test Among People
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what we know from Quran is ” on the day of judgment there will be no injustice” so I am sure if the person deserve good it will be according to their suffering in this world. I wont burden myself with such things because its beyond my knowledge, control and comprehension.
From materialistic perspective, people can overcome their circumstances and can be more than what they were born into based on their own abilities. Again something beyond our control. As a society, we can work towards such opportunities which eliminate any differences due to background so any one who wants to grow themselves they have opportunity for them to do so,
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