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    Posted by $ohail T@hir on June 24, 2020 at 1:51 pm

    The marital life of the Prophet (sws) has generally been misinterpreted by the critics of Islam. In this regard, unfortunately, the real stance of the Quran has often been misconceived even by some Muslim scholars. In the following paragraphs, we shall attempt to explain the Quranic viewpoint on this issue.

    In order to understand the reason behind the various marriages of the Prophet (sws), it is of paramount importance to appreciate two specific dimensions of his personality peculiar to him only.

    Of these, the first dimension is that he was a Nabi; in fact, on him the institution of Nabuwwat ended. A Nabi revives divine guidance and clears all misconceptions and doubts about it. He cleanses it from alien concepts and strives to reform the society. Since the Prophet (sws) was also the final Nabi, two basic requirements had to be arranged for: It was necessary to complete, finalize and seal the contents of the Last Word of Allah so that it could remain the ultimate source of guidance for all subsequent generations of mankind. Secondly, it was equally necessary to educate and instruct his wives so that they could become a model for all other women as well [1]. Also, it was necessary to highlight and preserve the private life of the Prophet (sws) so that Muslims could be able to follow him in this sphere also. It must also be realized that it was the Prophet’s lofty character as a Nabi which played a key role in bringing about a remarkable change among the unlettered people of Arabia. During the course of his daunting mission, he came across many untoward and emergency situations. As a Nabi, he took lead in solving the social problems in particular, which arose during this perilous journey.

    The second dimension of the Prophet’s personality is that besides being a Nabi, he was also a Rasool. Like a Nabi, a Rasool is not sent merely to preach and sermonize, but to decide the fate of the nation he addresses. He accomplishes the all important task of Itmaam-i-Hujjat [2] upon his nation, after which they are not given any right to live if they still deny the truth revealed to their Prophet. This is because they have failed in the real test for which they were created. The nation of a Rasool must accept faith if they are to live. Victory for the Rasool over the forces of evil is ordained by the Almighty. Consequently, the Prophet (sws) adopted all measures which helped him in achieving the political dominance of the religion revealed to him.

    With these dimensions of the Prophet’s personality in the background, we now examine each of the Prophet’s marriages.

    The two initial marriages of the Prophet (sws), it is obvious, were solemnized in a normal perspective and on customary footings. He first of all married a widow, Khadijah (rta), when he was about twenty five years old, while she was almost forty years old. For the next twenty five years, the couple remained happily married and the Prophet (sws) during this period was seen in the role of an ideal husband – something which he maintained throughout his marital life. At the death of Khadijah (rta), the Prophet (sws) was left with small children. Consequently, he married a widow, Saudah (rta), then fifty three years old. The need for this marriage like the previous one, it is obvious, arose from perfectly natural needs.

    All subsequent marriages of the Prophet (sws) were conducted to fulfil the responsibilities of Nabuwwat and Risaalat.

    In the year 622, the Prophet (sws) migrated to Medinah as its undisputed ruler. His marriage with Ayesha daughter of his dear Companion, Abu Bakr (rta) was consummated two years later [3]. The marriage had been legally solemnized a couple of years before migration. It seems that this marriage was, in fact, a divine selection, for the services rendered by Ayesha (rta) for the cause of Islam stand unparalleled. She was, perhaps, the greatest authority on Islam after the Prophet (sws). All the illustrious Companions of the Prophet (sws) consulted her for religious guidance. The Prophet’s marriage with Ayesha (rta) and later with Hafsa (rta) daughter of Umar (rta), also proved instrumental in the strengthening of ties with his two close Companions.

    Now, within the first few years after migration, many Muslim women were widowed particularly, because their husbands had been killed in the battles of Badr and Uhad. A large number of them including their children were left helpless. The opening verses of Surah Nisaa came to their rescue and suggested a way out to deal with their apathy. The custom of polygamy which was prevalent in Arabia was utilized to solve this problem. The Quran urged the Muslims to marry them if they could be just to all their wives and at the same time this number should not exceed four. Since the Prophet (sws) was to set an example in this regard, he took lead and married two widows Zainab binti Khuzaimah and Hafsah binti Umar. At this stage, he had four wives Ayesha (rta), Saudah (rta), Hafsa (rta) and Zainab binti Khuzaimah (rta). A few months later, Zainab binti Khuzaimah (rta) died and the Prophet (sws) married Ummi Salmah (rta) whose husband had been martyred in the battle of Uhad. Her husband Abu Salmah (rta) had rendered meritorious services for the cause of Islam.

    The Prophet (sws), while discharging his duties as the final Nabi, next married Zainab binti Jahash (rta) in the fifth year after migration. The reason for this marriage must be understood in the light of some important details: Islam inherited the inhuman institution of slavery. There were scores of slave men and women in every house. Instantly freeing them, it is clear, would have resulted in a lot of social and economic problems. Islam, therefore, adopted a gradual methodology to do away with slavery. It undertook various measures in this regard. However, freeing these slaves was not the only problem which was to be tackled. An even more important problem was to blend and graft them within the normal social structure of the society once they had been set free. Keeping in view the great sense of superiority the Arabs had over slaves, this was an extremely uphill task. Consequently, the Prophet (sws) in order to make them acceptable as normal members of a society took a very radical step. He persuaded his cousin sister Zainab binti Jahash to marry Zaid bin Haarisah, a slave boy he had set free and brought up as a son. The marriage took place, but, unfortunately, it could not continue due to certain reasons and Zaid bin Haarsihah had to divorce his wife. After this unfortunate dissolution of marriage, the only thing which could console Zainab (rta) was if the Prophet (sws) married her. Furthermore, it was necessary to reform a social custom concerning some erroneous concepts about an adopted son. According to this custom, the Arabs regarded the adopted sons and foster sons equally in all respects. This, of course, is against human nature and as such had to be abrogated. However, as a social custom, it was so deeply rooted in the Arab society that it could only be the Prophet’s personality which could abolish it. Consequently, on the Almighty’s bidding4, the Prophet (sws) married her to sympathize with her and to reform this custom.

    Also, with this marriage, the normal law of keeping four wives was extended by the Almighty for the Prophet (sws) so that he could effectively discharge his responsibilities as a Nabi and a Rasool.

    The Quran says:

    “O Prophet! We have made lawful to you the wives whom you have paid their dowers and the slave girls whom Allah has given you as booty and the daughters of your paternal uncles and aunts and the daughters of your maternal uncles and aunts who migrated [from Mecca] with you; and any believing women who gifts her soul to the Prophet on the condition that the Prophet wishes to marry her. This privilege is yours alone and not for the believers. We very well know what We have imposed on them as obligations regarding their wives and slave girls — in order that there be no difficulty for you [in your mission] and Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. You can keep any of them away from you and keep any of them near you and it is lawful for you to bring any of them near you whom you have kept away. This is more proper so that they be contented and not be sorrowful — that they may feel satisfied with what you give them. And Allah knows what is in your hearts and Allah is All-Knowing and Most Forbearing. All other women besides these are not lawful for you nor can you change them for other wives, even though their beauty attracts you except those who are your slave-girls [5]. And Allah does watch over all things.” (33:50-2)

    An analysis of the above mentioned verses reveals two important aspects:

    Firstly, two restrictions were imposed on the Prophet (sws): neither could he marry outside a certain sphere defined by the Quran, nor could he divorce any of his wives in order to wed another woman. According to this range, he could only marry women belonging to the following three categories.

    i) Women who had been made prisoners in a battle.

    ii) Women who had migrated from Mecca with the Prophet (sws) and were his close relatives.

    iii) Women who wanted to gift their soul to the Prophet (sws) on the condition that he wished to marry them. This meant a complete surrender of marital rights and acceptance of whatever the Prophet (sws) could afford to give them as far as time and attention were concerned.

    Secondly, since all these marriages were conducted to realize a mission [6], all restrictions which are generally imposed on men in the capacity of husbands were lifted. Consequently, he was absolved from observing equality between his wives [7].

    After this special law had been revealed for the Prophet (sws), he married Ummi Habibah (rta), Safiyah (rta), Jawairiyah (rta) — all of whom were the daughters of the leaders of the Quraish in order to tone down the rivalry of this leadership. It must be borne in mind that the Arabian society was feudal in nature and had its own peculiar traditions. One such tradition was the extreme respect and regard the Arabs had for their sons-in-law. Various tribes were at peace with others merely due to this relationship. To fight with a son-in-law was considered as a great shame for them. In these conditions, it was very appropriate for the Prophet (sws) to marry in various tribes and put an end to their hostility.

    Ummi-Habibah (rta) was the daughter of Abu-Sufyaan, the Prophet’s paternal uncle and one of his greatest enemies. She had migrated to Abyssinia to get some respite from the atrocities of the Quraish. There her husband accepted Christianity and she was left helpless. The Prophet (sws) married her and after this marriage, it became very difficult for Abu-Sufyan to remain the Prophet’s adversary. Ultimately, with the conquest of Mecca, he accepted Islam.

    Jawairiyah’s (rta) tribe Bani Mustaliq had taken to highway robbery. The Prophet (sws) waged war on them and subdued them. A great number of them were taken prisoners. Jawairiyah the daughter of the tribe’s chief was also among them. The Prophet (sws) married her and eliminated the seeds of hostility from this tribe.

    In the battle of Khaibar, after a peace treaty had been concluded with the enemy, the Muslim forces came across Safia binti Huyee — a helpless widow of an aristocratic family. Her father, Huyee bin Akhtab — a prominent leader of the Jews had been killed in the battle of Quraizah. The Prophet (sws) set her free and gave her the option to go to back to her family or to marry him if she wanted. Saffiyah showed her consent to marry the Prophet (sws). The marriage subsequently took place, and proved very effective in toning down the hostilities of the Jews.

    At the conquest of Mecca in the eighth year after migration, the Prophet (sws) married Maimoonah (rta), who had gifted her soul to him. Her only wish was to be associated with the Prophet (sws).

    From the above details, it is evident that most of the marriages of the Prophet (sws) were conducted to help in realizing his mission as a Nabi and a Rasool. He had been given special directives in this regard and as such his marriages should be viewed in the light of these directives.

    References

    1. Consequently, the Quran, while reminding the wives of the Prophet (sws) about their primary duty, says:

    And make known what is rehearsed to you in your homes of the revelations of Allah and His wisdom.’ (33:34)

    2. The unveiling of truth by a Prophet to the extent that no one has an excuse to deny it.

    3. Recent researches have established beyond doubt that Ayesha (rta) at the time of the consummation was in her twenties. The Ahaadith which report her age to be eight or nine years at the time of marriage are absolutely baseless. For further details see Hakim Niaz Ahmad’s “Tehqeeq Umri Ayesha Siddiqah” (Mashkoor Academy, Karachi)

    4. In the words of the Quran:

    And when Zaid divorced his wife, We gave her to you in marriage in order that there may be no difficulty to the believers to wed the wives of their adopted sons if they divorced them.’ (33:37)

    5. As mentioned earlier, Islam had inherited the institution of slavery. It had adopted a gradual methodology to do away with it. Consequently, during the interim period, temporary directives had to be given about slave men and women present in the society. The Prophet (sws) set an example before the Muslims in this regard and the manner in which he treated his slave men and women was beyond compare. He gave his slave women the same regard and respect as his wives if not more. The case of Maria Qibtia, a maiden gifted by Maquaqus, the king of Egypt, to the Prophet (sws) speaks volumes for this treatment. It must be kept in mind that the Prophet (sws) could not marry her, since, according to the Quran, he could only marry slave women captured in a battle. Returning a royal gift, of course, would be against courtesy.

    6. The words

    so that there is no difficulty for thee’ [in accomplishing thy mission] and

    This privilege is yours alone and not for the believers’. clearly point out the underlying wisdom of this law specifically meant for the Prophet (sws).

    7. Inspite of this relief, history testifies to the fact that the Prophet (sws) observed this equality between his wives in every sense of the word.

    Umer replied 3 years, 9 months ago 3 Members · 7 Replies
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  • Marriages Of The Prophet Muhammad (Sws)

    Umer updated 3 years, 9 months ago 3 Members · 7 Replies
  • $ohail T@hir

    Moderator June 28, 2020 at 7:55 pm
  • Monis Saeed

    Member July 13, 2020 at 11:59 am

    How this was the only thing to console even though it was taboo , what tradition did it break ? Even today we think it as a taboo and would not like to do such thing

  • Monis Saeed

    Member July 13, 2020 at 12:02 pm

    Why is Prophet given the leverage if he was to be a role model ? This can be used by other people as well who have huge responsibilities

  • Monis Saeed

    Member July 13, 2020 at 12:05 pm

    Even today some preachers ask their following women to submit themselves to them , we have heard that many times today and in history too . Many peers , baba , popes do that. If a non muslim or ex muslim read that he can definitely say Muhammad SAW made law to please himselves as other do

  • Umer

    Moderator July 14, 2020 at 8:38 am

    Islam is very sensitive about issue of adopted child and his/her lineage. At any cost, child’s genetic parenthood needs to be maintained. That’s why at another point it is said in Quran that call your adopted children with their actual father’s names (i.e. never give them a wrong impression that somehow you’re the actual father of those children). This level of sensitivity, as experience tells us, if not observed right from the beginning, results in a great psychological disaster for the child at some point in future when he/she comes to know of the truth. Lives could’ve been destroyed and many families might have to face the consequences of this decision.

    Arabs used to have this tradition of treating their adopted son as biological sons, associating their names with them, thus blurring the true identity of that kid. Because of this fact, adopted son’s marital status was classified under the same status as that of a biological son as an extension of this whole adoption tradition. Therefore, Quran first addressed this primary cause, by prohibiting Muslims of associating their false biological relationship with adopted sons and instructed Muslims to call them with their true biological father’s name. As a necessary extension of this reform, all associated traditions related to adoption must come to an end at all costs by the Prophet (sws) himself because of three apparent reasons:

    1) Keeping in view the long term repercussions of this whole tradition (psychological and societal repercussions for both the individuals and the families), all these traditions in their each and every form must had to be put to an end.

    2) The institution of prophethood was coming to an end and, if any of such primary and associated traditions were not cut off by the prophet himself, there was a great risk that such traditions of Arab after spread of Islam would become part of other nations traditions as well, because Islam was bound to spread and under influence of Islam, these Arabic traditions were bound to become part of other nations traditions as well. And in worst case scenario, these traditions could’ve wrongly be misunderstood as part of Islam (bidat) and propagated as such. This was high time to nip this evil in the bud. (Sensitivity of Quran to finality of prophethood can also be seen in the incident where Prophet (sws) declared Honey Haram (prohibited) on himself (to please His wives), which under normal circumstances is no big deal and seems a very trivial personal issue. But Quran explicitly prohibited Him from making any such personal decisions because of the same fears as mentioned above).

    3) Such deep rooted norms and customs are not easy to get rid of (more like easier said than done). Societal reforms sometimes take many centuries to see their fruition. It is only the personality of the Prophet (sws), along with His charisma and religious status, whose first step in breaking off any such tradition can reduce such long periods of societal reforms to great extent. (It would be unfair to see this event in isolation, among other things, Prophet (sws) took lead in introducing societal reforms on abrogation of slavery as well).

    Having said that, it is also evident that among secondary purposes, the psychological state of Zainab (rta) was also taken into consideration. It also helped her achieve that psychological balance in the society, which she had lost because of the resulting divorce. Since Prophet (sws) had to break that tradition Himself, for Zainab (rta) who was from Quraysh as well, who better than the Prophet (sws) to take Her in His Nikah.

    (Therefore, it is requested to not see this one event in isolation, rather, the whole societal picture of that time along with how societal reforms work need to be kept in mind when reading about it.)

    Regarding the other points raised, they would’ve been valid (like other popes, peer, and babas), if you can point any incident of Prophet (sws) forcing His decisions on other women (all wives of Prophet (sws) were given free will and they chose to be associated with the Prophet as free women without any external influence), or was in continuous search for some young ladies to get married to at all times. No such thing can be said about His character, except for His number of marriages. If He had any such inclinations naturally, He would never have chosen His first two wives to be widows and of bigger ages.

  • Monis Saeed

    Member July 17, 2020 at 1:11 am

    Thanks, everything makes sense but Why God Himself give him lenience not to fulfill rights?

    • Umer

      Moderator July 19, 2020 at 11:28 am

      It’s not just about this lenience, before laying out all these conditions as mentioned in (33:50-52) above, the wives of the Prophet (sws) were forewarned that certain directives are to be laid out which would require more sacrifice from them and lay more responsibilities on them in their status as wives of the Prophet (sws), and they were given option beforehand to choose for themselves whether they want to stay in this marital relationship or not; either way, whatever decision they make, that decision will be honored with utmost dignity (as can be seen in 33:28-29).

      This is the most equitable and fair approach one can follow, to lay bare everything in front of the affected parties and give them free choice to choose for themselves. After their agreement to stay, then the additional regulations were laid out for both the Prophet (sws) and His wives. Had it not been the case, the criticism would have be on exploitation of wives by keeping them in dark, not giving them freedom to choose for themselves and giving lenience to Prophet (sws) only in terms of His marital relationships etc. etc.

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