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“A Personal Conflict Between Emotional Boundaries And Respect”
Assalamualaikum,It is quite difficult for me to write this, but I have been thinking about this issue for a long time and wondering whether it could lead to Allah’s displeasure.When I was born, my grandmother suggested to my parents that they let my paternal aunt (who is unmarried) take care of me so that she would have something meaningful to do. Because of this, I was raised not only by my parents but also by my aunt.The problem now is that her behavior towards me has changed. The connection we once had is no longer the same. This change seems to be because of a girl who has been here for less than seven months. My aunt herself once said that this girl is not deserving of love, and that my mother is too innocent for keeping her.I have never had any personal issue with this girl. I simply started maintaining a little distance instead of interacting as normally as before. I had only set one condition, which has always been my habit—that no one should interrupt me while I am speaking. She agreed to this.However, whenever that girl is around, my aunt interrupts me or suddenly shifts her attention elsewhere. Because of this, I gradually stopped going there. She spends most of her time with that girl—even once when I went at 4 a.m., she was still with her.Now, I do not feel comfortable staying in contact or talking to her. However, she continues to send gifts and repeatedly asks to talk. For the sake of my mental health, I have decided that maintaining distance is the best option for me right now.At the same time, I am also wondering whether I should still maintain good character and kind behavior with her, similar to what Allah has commanded us in our dealings with parents.
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“A Personal Conflict Between Emotional Boundaries And Respect”
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@Irfan76 Sir, I need your help, and I’m sorry for wasting your time.
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To be good to parents and elders it is not necessary to accompany them when it is annoying. Be good to them when you see them.
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“Oh, the issue is that I meet them every day, and everything is nearby—my walking route and home are all close.”
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“So, if I meet them, I should greet them, exchange salutations, and ask about their well-being. But my speaking less also causes them discomfort—if I am the reason for that discomfort, will I be sinful?”
“And I don’t like that anyone complains about me to God, so now I’m very confused.”
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In that case their discomfort is their problem which is not caused by anything sinful.
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