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Polygamy
I dont understand why Allah made polygamy permissible.
Though I may understand it from a man’s perspective and his ablity to love more than one woman, how does one justify the pain that his first wife goes through? As capacity doesnt necessarily mean action, like homosexuality, one may desire the same sex but will be rewarded for restraint, and punished for acting on it as it destroys societies. Doesn’t polygamy also destroy a woman’s peace which too consequently has an impact on society, even though my main concern is the wife’s distress.
I have personally never seen a woman who managed to keep her sanity after her husband re married. The depression, rightful jealousy and trauma she goes through is exteremely painful, and Allah who does’t allow even a speck of injustice go unnoticed, how can He allow such an emotional agony without the one causing it being held responsible for it?
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This discussion was modified 3 weeks, 6 days ago by
Khadija Tahir.
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Polygamy
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The sensitivity many women express toward polygamy is, comparatively speaking, a relatively recent phenomenon. Attitudes toward polygamy have always been shaped by cultural norms and the needs of a particular time and society.
In highly competitive tribal societies, where life expectancy was low and survival depended on population growth, having a large number of children was considered essential. Under such circumstances, allowing men to have more than one wife was viewed as a practical means of increasing the population. In contrast, modern societies generally favor smaller families, reducing any perceived social need for polygamy.
The distress that many modern women associate with polygamy is also influenced by social norms. By contrast, modern Arab women still do not feel as strongly against polygamy as the Women of the subcontinent and beyond feel about it.
Whether a society accepts or rejects polygamy is largely determined by its cultural values, legal framework, and social circumstances. If society once again needed a larger population, people’s views on polygamy might change as well. From this point of view, God’s commands should not be judged only by today’s personal preferences, because they are meant to guide people in different times and circumstances.
It is a permission, not a directive, so if it is counterproductive in a society, then men should avoid it.
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