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Acts, Foreplays And Kinks Between Spouses
Posted by Aqib Khan on October 3, 2026 at 1:57 pmAre all types of foreplays, kinks etc between spouses halal if they both have agreed to a certain limit and there is a safe word just in case? And playful distress and playful pain , maybe touching genuine distress or pain but consensually etc? Are all these supposed to be decided by the spouses? Also , as I hold the opinion that masturbation is not haram, are all types of vibrators between us not haram to use too? What about vibrators that wouldn’t just vibrate her private part but literally go inside it? Please tell.
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Acts, Foreplays And Kinks Between Spouses
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 3, 2026 at 11:39 pmThere are little restrictions in this matter of sex.
Anal sex is forbidden because it directs to filth.
Masturbation is not forbidden.
The person decides what is zulm and zyadti and what is not.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 4, 2026 at 12:33 amSo , in this case , would using vibrators on her that literally go inside her, would not be haram? Not talking about anus by the way. Also , what if she receives marks that are more long lasting but it’s all still consensual? Like, something that leaves very good marks?
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Aqib Khan
Member October 4, 2026 at 12:49 pmAlso , would there be a reward for both if this is consensual?
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 5, 2026 at 12:34 amThe answer is already provided in the first response.
Within these broad parameters, you can determine what is good or bad, appropriate or inappropriate.
There is nothing inherently objectionable about something entering the body for the purpose of creating pleasure.
By “reward,” do you mean sawāb? If so, the reward is for those who confine themselves to their spouses.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 7, 2026 at 6:53 amWhat about consumption of semen? In context of both ; with spouse and of oneself? And sleeping nude both ; with her and alone, with and without covers? Plz tell about all scenarios.
Also , a little bonus question, is reading erotic texts halal as the most it’d cause me to do is masturbation, which I already follow the opinion of that it’s not strictly haram? What about reading so with spouse? Thank you.
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 7, 2026 at 11:32 pmSwallowing semen is against the sense of purity; the same is licking the private parts.
Again, you have to decide under these broader parameters.
You do not do anything filthy. What you think comes under the category of zulm should be avoided.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 8, 2026 at 1:40 amPersonally, I think ALL of these are either halal or slightly makruh (due to being against human fitrah) . Because there’s already a difference of opinion and secondly there’s no explicitly forbidding it . So, if I think it’s not haram , is it fine?
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 8, 2026 at 11:55 pmThere is another category in addition to haram that is “not desirable” or against the spirit of Islam.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 9, 2026 at 8:45 amSo , by addition to haram, do you mean that haram’s included in this category too? Or are you not including haram in it and just telling about what makruh is? Sorry for stupid questions.
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 11, 2026 at 2:41 amThis is subjective. One’s sense of purity may find it reprehensible and other may find it just not desirable.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 12, 2026 at 8:33 pmSo, can you please give a definitive answer on all that I mentioned?
Anyway, what’s the ruling on 2 wives engaging in intimacy with the husband simultaneously whilst covering their AWRAH? Like , one gives him oral, one’s kissing him etc. can they both seem him naked at the same time and play with his body atleast?
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 12, 2026 at 11:22 pmThere is no definite answer.
Yes, with these precautions, they can do so if they agree.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 13, 2026 at 7:49 amIt’s because I’ve heard from good scholar that a fatwa telling us to use our conscience isn’t a fatwa. So, please try to understand and tell me, is it halal if I engage in all the things I mentioned before? With consent obviously . Just a simple yes or no . That’d be enough.
Also , if the awrah’s not exposed between spouses and they engage in intimacy with him at the same time , like tickling, kissing, oral , and other things, are they fine if everyone’s consensual?
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 14, 2026 at 12:31 amWe are not giving fatwa, but guiding. The things that a person has to decide for himself can’t be told specifically by any other one.
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 14, 2026 at 6:53 amUmm… In my Gmail , it was written “we are giving fatwa” . The “not” was missing there or what?
Anyway , how can I act on something on my own conscience when it needs a fatwa? You’re a scholar. I get that it’s farahi school , but what’s the purpose of guidance if I won’t be free from accountability on day of judgement, unlike a fatwa where I won’t be accountable for following it?
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Dr. Irfan Shahzad
Scholar October 14, 2026 at 10:36 pmA fatwa is given when an explicit solution is possible. In matters of subjective judgment, the person involved has to decide.
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Aqib Khan
Member October 15, 2026 at 9:43 pmI know it’s to be decided between the spouses at the final act. Yes , we can decide among ourselves whether me and my wife want to do a specific act.
But my question is… Are the things themselves halal to do in the 1st place? If possible, give a fatwa please.
Anyway, are there other scholars (other than this website) who hold this type of view that impact play , even if it causes redness , swelling , playful distress etc , is halal/not haram/makruh , if it’s all consensual?
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