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Finding Men For Marriage
Asalamualaykum, I am feeling in despair more and more every day as I am now going to be 26, I am an extremely nice woman in medical school going into surgery, etc and can not find female friends or male partners. One big issue is I am not in a Muslim predominant area, but another thing is even when meeting “Muslim men”, close to every other guy is addiction to porn and does not even realize they are an addict. Other men say women should give preference to the man for decision making which make sense no sense to me especially considering most decisions require money and I will be the primary income earner. Are there any free or legitimate apps for trying to meet serious and morally righteous people? Many women I know who are even in surgery, older than me, and wear hijab cannot find a partner. Then other issue is men are severely uneducated and have the audacity to tear down our education because of student loans, claiming that saving people’s lives does not warrant haraam interest debt. Between this, the suppression of women as decision makers, and porn addicts, most of the women stay unmarried even when trying to marry someone from another time religion (as we will not lower Our standards so low that we accept someone who claims Jesus is God). I’ve tried organizing my own marraige event through the he masjid and even the woman who has 30 years experience match making who is employed at the masjid says “for man that years there have been very few unexpected uneducated men”. I even tried to reach out to as Dr. Rania to learn Islamic Studies while in medical school and received an initial response via text, but nothing substantial (I realized my men would not take my argument seriously no matter how logical if I was not of a certified scholar. Oven contacted multiple masjids and msa about this issue and the women who are most educated, stay away from superficial things like photographing their whole lives instagram, and genuinely care about making a difference a difference the world go unmarried regardless of the country (Pakistan, France, America anecdotally). What resources are there for us to find moral partners and moral friends, not even necessarily Muslim? Why is the Muslim community community so shy about these issues even when I am providing evidence directly to them on why they are problematic? The only conclusion I can come to is it is the end of the world.
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Finding Men For Marriage
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Not sure why there are so many typos that cannot be edited so here it is again:Asalamualaykum, I am feeling in despair more and more every day as I am now going to be 26, I am an extremely nice woman in medical school going into surgery, etc and can not find female friends or male partners. One big issue is I am not in a Muslim predominant area, but another thing is even when meeting “Muslim men”, close to every other guy is addicted to porn and does not even realize they are an addict. Other men say women should give preference to the man for decision making which make no sense to me especially considering most decisions require money and I will be the primary income earner. Are there any free or legitimate apps for trying to meet serious and morally righteous people? Many women I know who are even in surgery, older than me, and wear hijab cannot find a partner. Then other issue is men are severely uneducated and have the audacity to tear down our education because of student loans, claiming that saving people’s lives does not warrant haraam interest debt. Between this, the suppression of women as decision makers, and porn addicts, most of the women stay unmarried even when trying to marry someone from another religion (as we will not lower Our standards so low that we accept someone who claims Jesus is God). I’ve tried organizing my own marraige event through the the masjid and even the woman who has 30 years experience match making who is employed at the masjid says “for many years there have been very few educated men”. I even tried to reach out to Dr. Rania to learn Islamic Studies while in medical school and received an initial response via text, but nothing substantial (I realized men would not take my argument seriously no matter how logical if I was not of a certified scholar. Ive contacted multiple masjids and msa about this issue and the women who are most educated, stay away from superficial things like photographing their whole lives instagram, and genuinely care about making a difference a difference the world go unmarried regardless of the country (Pakistan, France, America anecdotally). What resources are there for us to find moral partners and moral friends, not even necessarily Muslim? Why is the Muslim community community so shy about these issues even when I am providing evidence directly to them on why they are problematic? The only conclusion I can come to is it is the end of the world.
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Sister there are many Muslim men out there who are morally upright as well as educated. I’m sorry that you’re having difficulty finding the right men for marriage, but unfortunately on Ask Ghamidi we don’t know of any resources to help you with your search.
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If there are many or there, how are all of us having difficulty. It may seem to you that there are many out there, but that’s probably Becuase you don’t know about their addiction. If there are many out there, I strongly encourage you to make An app for us as I can tell you it isn’t only me that’s having difficulty. Thanks
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