We care more about our image to the outer world, how they perceive us and whether we are in their good books or not–to simetimes achieve some material benefits or sometimes it gives us a sense of achievement (a good social standing etc.). While with our household memebers, there is no such benefit to gain, instead, most of the times it is patience and sacrifice that is required from us. And most of all, there’s no social compulsion on us to be good with them all the time as there’s nothing to lose in terms of material benefits.

Holding onto high moral values and reminding oneself of their ultimate goal of akhirah and how to acheve it (i.e. tazkiya) can help one being more respectul to the their immediate family memebers. Sometimes reminding ourselves of the sacrifices made by or good deeds done by our family members for us can also helo us empathize with them better. In addition to this, one should continually perform self-accountability every night, to identify mistakes made during the day and try to not repeat those mistake the next day; and be a better version of ourselves with every passing day.

Please refer to the video below from 43:50 to 51:35

https://youtu.be/f53XkKt2bf8?t=2630

Please also refer to the video below from 1:55:30 to 1:56:03