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  • Why Different Course Of Action In Case Of Nushuz For Both Husband And Wife?

    Posted by اشهل صادق on April 9, 2022 at 6:12 am

    السلام علیکم

    میرے ذہن میں سوال یہ اٹھا ہے کہ قرآن مجید میں بیویوں کی طرف سے نشوز پہ تو شوہروں کو معاملہ سنبھالنے کے لیے ایک لمبی نصیحت کی گئی ہے کہ آیا کہ ان کا لائحہ عمل کیا ہونا چاہیے۔ دوسری طرف ہم دیکھتے ہیں کہ شوہروں کی طرف سے جب اسی جرم کا صدور ہوتا ہے تو قرآن مجید بیویوں کو بس اتنا فرماتا ہے کہ سمجھوتا کر لو۔ یہ فرق کیوں نظر آتا ہے؟ اگر مقصد گھر بچانا ہے تو بیویوں کو کیوں کوئی نصیحت نہیں کی گئی؟ کیا ان کو بھی یہ نہیں کہا جا سکتا تھا کہ پہلے وہ شوہروں کو نصیحت کریں اور پھر بستر الگ کر لیں اور اگر یہ بھی کام نہ کرے تو گھر بچانے کی ایک آخری کاوش کے طور پر دونوں طرف کے بڑوں کو صورت حال سے آگاہ کریں؟ اگر نہیں تو کیا وجہ ہے؟

    Umer replied 2 years, 8 months ago 3 Members · 2 Replies
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  • Why Different Course Of Action In Case Of Nushuz For Both Husband And Wife?

    Umer updated 2 years, 8 months ago 3 Members · 2 Replies
  • Ahsan

    Moderator April 9, 2022 at 3:43 pm

    You may find answer to question in detail in book Islam and Women by Dr Farooq. Refer to it here
    https://javedahmedghamidi.org/#!/books/5aa671be5e891e8f44a4458a?chapterNo=4

    In short, Man has been given responsiblities with obligation not the other way round. Thats why he is head of the family. He has been given power due to this fact.

  • Umer

    Moderator April 10, 2022 at 7:54 am

    Videos made available in the following thread elaborate the whole concept of ‘Nushuz‘ in great depth along with answers to frequently asked questions. Please refer to the following thread:

    Discussion 66019

    Can you please elaborate that where is it mentioned that in case Husband shows rebellious attitude then wives are asked to compromise with that? (this is what I’ve understood from your statement above).

    Marriage is a contract in which it is the responsibility of the husband to generously provide for the expenses of his wife and children. He is required to deal with them in a way which is in accordance with the norms of decency and those of sense and reason, and which is based on graciousness and courtesy, and in which the requisites of justice and fairness are fulfilled. Similarly, it is required of a wife that she should adopt an attitude of harmony and obedience towards the husband and protect his secrets as well as his honour and integrity.

    Following thread has detailed discussion on this topic:

    Discussion 1265

    Women are not barred to counsel their husband if a situation solicits such counsel or even separate their bed for the time being knowing that this might soften their husband’s heart out of love they have for eachother. All of this needs to be done in a reasonable way. But since husband is the head of the family, a specific course was laid-down for the husband tying his hands to misuse his authority as head of the household.

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