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Backbiting
Can someone explain backbiting and some examples of what constitutes thererof and doesn’t?
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Backbiting
updated 3 years, 9 months ago
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But then so many things come under backbiting we can t even talk about anyone else when they’re not present.
What about cracking jokes? What if someone is over-sensitive to jokes?
What if I say I don’t like the way he spoke or I don’t like what he was wearing?
Eg on the whatsapp group one brother called Ghamidi sahab not very bright- is that backbiting?
Then removing him and saying that he was not of a good character and being rude- is that backbiting?
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Salam bhai – lil busy this week.
@UmerQureshi or @faisalharoon any input here pls. 🌻
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“But then so many things come under backbiting” Unfortunately, yes. Commandments should never evaluated on the basis of apparent results – they must be evaluated on the basis of evidence and sound reasoning.
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Yes bhai sorry I came across that way. Are all the examples I have forms of backbiting?
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Ahmad sahab generally yes, but it also depends. I have childhood friends who just do not mind no matter what jokes I crack about them in their absence or presence. I don’t mind their jokes either. We just have that kind of a strong bond. As humans we intuitively know when we’re crossing the line. And if we unknowingly commit a mistake and it’s pointed out, we should apologize in no uncertain terms. This is my sincere opinion.
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So as a rule of thumb and in reference to the Quranic verse which talks about assumption- can we say backbiting is anything that involves assumption and an attack on someone’s character- unless you know they would not mind eg in the case of friendship.
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Of course one should not assume, and if they must, they should give the person the benefit of the doubt. But backbiting has more to do with one’s intent. As a rule of thumb I think when we are talking about others behind their back, we need to make sure that it’s true and that what we say is necessary for the conversation.
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