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  • Backbiting

    Faisal Haroon updated 3 years, 7 months ago 3 Members · 9 Replies
  • $ohail T@hir

    Moderator July 17, 2020 at 2:55 pm
    • Ahmad Shoaib

      Contributor July 17, 2020 at 3:02 pm

      But then so many things come under backbiting we can t even talk about anyone else when they’re not present.

      What about cracking jokes? What if someone is over-sensitive to jokes?

      What if I say I don’t like the way he spoke or I don’t like what he was wearing?

      Eg on the whatsapp group one brother called Ghamidi sahab not very bright- is that backbiting?

      Then removing him and saying that he was not of a good character and being rude- is that backbiting?

  • Ahmad Shoaib

    Contributor July 20, 2020 at 11:15 am
  • Faisal Haroon

    Moderator July 20, 2020 at 3:35 pm

    “But then so many things come under backbiting” Unfortunately, yes. Commandments should never evaluated on the basis of apparent results – they must be evaluated on the basis of evidence and sound reasoning.

    • Ahmad Shoaib

      Contributor July 20, 2020 at 3:37 pm

      Yes bhai sorry I came across that way. Are all the examples I have forms of backbiting?

    • Faisal Haroon

      Moderator July 20, 2020 at 3:46 pm

      Ahmad sahab generally yes, but it also depends. I have childhood friends who just do not mind no matter what jokes I crack about them in their absence or presence. I don’t mind their jokes either. We just have that kind of a strong bond. As humans we intuitively know when we’re crossing the line. And if we unknowingly commit a mistake and it’s pointed out, we should apologize in no uncertain terms. This is my sincere opinion.

    • Ahmad Shoaib

      Contributor July 20, 2020 at 3:51 pm

      So as a rule of thumb and in reference to the Quranic verse which talks about assumption- can we say backbiting is anything that involves assumption and an attack on someone’s character- unless you know they would not mind eg in the case of friendship.

    • Faisal Haroon

      Moderator July 20, 2020 at 4:09 pm

      Of course one should not assume, and if they must, they should give the person the benefit of the doubt. But backbiting has more to do with one’s intent. As a rule of thumb I think when we are talking about others behind their back, we need to make sure that it’s true and that what we say is necessary for the conversation.

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