Dealing With Emotionally Abusive Parent
Aslam o alaikum…
My question is that my father is use to be a little bit harsh towards my mother. He although never hit her or abuse her but he is not a perfect husband too. He always took care of us financially but never protected my mother in front of his family. He has also some anger issues too. Due to all these factors, my hatred towards him is increasing day by day.i tried to talk with him but he is ignorant and illiterate. I can’t change him in this age as he is 55 years old now .One day, in his anger he throw a plate towards me and used some harsh words.it is an incident of 6th June. Now, he is in abroad. But from 6th June I never talk with him. I completely ignored him. Whenever I thought about that incident my rage towards him is soaring. Actually It was an incidence of two days before of him leaving for abroad. thats why I apologize to him although i have not any fault. But he never feel regret on his behaviour. Is being a father an angel?I mean he never make a mistake or say sorry if he has done some wrong. I simply choose the way to completely avoid him and not to talk with him. I can’t change him and I can’t even argue with him. I don’t want my life to be disturbed so much thats why I choose this way. Now, please tell me is this righteous from Islamic point of view or not. but please explain it completely.
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