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  • Breaking Off Ties With Father

    Posted by Rehmet Hafeez on July 24, 2021 at 11:01 am

    In islam,we are not allowed to misbehave with our fathers but as a human being if we feel humiliating or disrespectful behaviour,can we just stop talking with our father ? If I am not able to change him then it’s the only way to avoid the trouble.. is it right? And if this is not right then in which hadith or ayat it is written that parents have privillage even to insult you…?

    Umer replied 2 years, 7 months ago 5 Members · 5 Replies
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  • Breaking Off Ties With Father

    Umer updated 2 years, 7 months ago 5 Members · 5 Replies
  • Afia Khan

    Member July 24, 2021 at 12:58 pm

    The best example in Quran is the father of Prophet Ibrahim AS. It shows how a righteous son behaves to the father. It doesn’t mean that they are authorized to insult thei children.

  • Faisal Haroon

    Moderator July 24, 2021 at 1:00 pm

    Without understanding more details, a proper response can’t be rendered. However, in principle, children are asked to treat their parents in a good way (ihsan). Please see Quran 4:36. Moreover, we are required to not severe ties with our relatives.

  • Nadeem Minhas

    Member July 24, 2021 at 7:05 pm

    Disregarding rare exceptions, most of the parents love their children and sincerely want them to succeed.

    The method they adopt to help guide their children to the right path depends on their education, knowledge and past experiences. Sometimes it is just the health condition or stresses in life that shape their communication style. But, rest assure their intensions are always pure and sincere toward their children.

    Now their style of communication may not be aligned with the expectation of children who are born in a different culture, environment or at least in a different generation.

    Focus on the inherent message they want to communicate and as much as possible disregard the delivery method and always maintain respectful in your posture and language.

    In response to their rude, denigrating and offensive style speak to them with respect and see how quickly they will melt down. If not, try talking to them one-on-one with when they are in a good mood and explain how you feel.

    Still doesn’t work, then talk to one of your grandparents, uncles or aunts (his parents, brothers or sister) to communicate your message on your behalf.

    Still doesn’t work, then with respect try staying away from him and communicate briefly and as necessary.

  • Rehmet Hafeez

    Member July 24, 2021 at 11:05 pm

    You explained very well, Thank you so much…

  • Umer

    Moderator July 25, 2021 at 4:36 am

    Please refer to the following response by Hassan Sahab:

    Discussion 50667 • Reply 50800

    Please also refer to the following response by Ghamidi Sahab:

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